“If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your thighs, your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don't have one, you think about doing yoga teacher training. Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy -- or at least a guy with a really, really good job -- would solve all your problems. Howevs, a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids. This is why you see a lot of celebrity women getting husbands after they adopt. The kids put the woman on notice: Bitch, hello! It's not all about you anymore! After a year or two of thinking about someone other than herself, suddenly, Brad Pitt or Harrison Ford comes along and decides to significantly other her. Which is also to say -- if what you really want is a baby, go get you one. Your husband will be along shortly. Motherhood has a way of weeding out the lotharios.” • #про_девочек - #семейное - #женщины_и_люди - × × ×

Ох, как же автор чудесно троллит: “if you're having sex outside committed relationships, you will have to stop. Why? Because past a certain age, casual sex is like recreational heroin -- it doesn't stay recreational for long. ¶ That's due in part to this thing called oxytocin -- a bonding hormone that is released when a woman a) nurses her baby and b) has an orgasm -- that will totally mess up your casual-sex game. It's why you can be f**k-buddying with some dude who isn't even all that great and the next thing you know, you're totally strung out on him. And you have no idea how it happened. Oxytocin, that's how it happened. And since nature can't discriminate between marriage material and Charlie Sheen, you're going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.” - × × ×

Ок, общение в закрытом кругу привело к осознанию того, что мне давно не приходило в голову очевидное — проблемы с пониманием своих ролей, разделением ответственности и обязанностей, распространяются на оба пола, а не только на какой-то один. Забавно как выходит. - × × ×

"... and decides to significantly other her." oh wonders of the English tongue! - кот от котов

^ ?! - Тринадцатый

ну глагол от группы существительного "significant other" - "to significantly other" - кот от котов

нет, я про "tongue" - Тринадцатый

ну, эта, tongue: 4 a : language; especially : a spoken language (M-W) - кот от котов

и кивок на подвешенность дамочкиного языка - кот от котов

ничего себе, не знал об этом значении. думал, это такая шутка-подстрочник - Тринадцатый

ну mother tongue, все дела. обычно про устный, но в поэтической вольнице по-всякому быват - кот от котов

Интересно получается, если симметрично применить к мужчинам. Особенно насчет if you really want a baby go get you one. - marinka239

^ Я знаю про такие случаи у друзей друзей, сам не сталкивался. Хотя нет, сталкивался — когда один отец содержит одну-две семьи, или сам воспитывает ребёнка после развода и помогает предыдущей семье. - × × ×

Чудесный троллинг про ложь и ожидания: “You know if you tell him the truth -- that you're ready for marriage -- he will stop calling. Usually that day. And you don't want that. So you just tell him how perfect this is because you only want to have sex for fun! You love having fun sex! And you don't want to get in a relationship at all! You swear! About ten minutes later, the oxytocin kicks in. You start wanting more. But you don't tell him that. That's your secret -- just between you and 22,000 of your closest girlfriends. Instead, you hang around, having sex with him, waiting for him to figure out that he can't live without you. I have news: he will never "figure" this out. He already knows he can live without you just fine. And so do you. Or you wouldn't be lying to him in the first place.” - × × ×

:)) - × × ×

Хорошие, годные цитаты. Но где в них троллинг? 8-) - 9000

Там ключевая интонация, как мне показалось, в сторону читателя «дорогая, ты принимаешь себя настолько всерьёз, что иди и займись уже чем-то, кроме себя». ) - × × ×

^^^ ну это вообще правильная мысль. «Мой мальчик, если тебе невыразимо тоскливо и плохо, то, вероятно, ты слишком много думаешь о себе» (ц) - 9000

У Аквы о том же: http://friendfeed.com/aqva... - × × ×

подумал, а ведь статья — одна большая проекция, там везде you надо по месту менять на I, me и т.п. - Peter Fedin

Ну, она там довольно честно в начале намекает, что пишет для самой себя. ) “Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships -- someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.” — это вот прямо совершенно прямая речь. ) Что не делает её шесть пунктов менее точными! - × × ×