“What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up. But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a virtuous circle. Tenacious practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence; rote repetition is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something—whether it's math, piano, pitching or ballet—he or she gets praise, admiration and satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes it easier for the parent to get the child to work even more.” • #grind_is_good • #о_воспитании - × × ×

“As a parent, one of the worst things you can do for your child's self-esteem is to let them give up. On the flip side, there's nothing better for building confidence than learning you can do something you thought you couldn't. ¶ Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they're capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.” - × × ×

и после этого - http://www.quora.com/Parenti... и http://news.ycombinator.com/item... - Estonian Scout

^^^ Ох, ппц. Ну, чего-то такого от столь авторитарного стиля я и ожидал. - denis

Thx for linking this. Made me understand few important points about myself. I wish I were pushed to excel, e.g. to play piano for 3 hours a day with some ambitious/competitve goal instead of playing half an hour daily, with the ultimate purpose to entertain drunken bored relatives at family celebrations. It was OK to play badly then, and I was always embarrassed by making mistakes in public, so I hated the piano and did not realise back then that the antidot is a shear volume of quality practice. Same is true for many other things I had to do. - cheran

Именно так. Когда ты молод и прекрасен, цифра в 10 000 часов практики, которые нужно набрать для мало-мальского мастерства в любом деле, кажется абстрактной и непостижимой. Если бы эту цифру меня учили постигать в детско-школьном возрасте, а образовательная психотерапия учила детей не отчаиваться при ошибках, считать их нормой, и праздновать достижения, то лет десять назад мои поиски того, чем заняться, могли быть гораздо продуктивнее. Лучше поздно, впрочем. - × × ×

Пока люди ругают автора и рассказывают про доведение до депрессивных суицидов, я больше вспоминал вот эту статью: The Secret to Raising Smart Kids — “Hint: Don't tell your kids that they are. More than three decades of research shows that a focus on effort—not on intelligence or ability—is key to success in school and in life” — http://friendfeed.com/urbansh..., которая благодаря статье Эми Чау дополнилась «живыми человеческими мнениями», что всегда хорошо. - × × ×