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“I’ve skied steep slopes and hung from a rock face by a short length of rope, but staring into someone’s eyes for four silent minutes was one of the more thrilling and terrifying experiences of my life. I spent the first couple of minutes just trying to breathe properly. There was a lot of nervous smiling until, eventually, we settled in. ¶ I know the eyes are the windows to the soul or whatever, but the real crux of the moment was not just that I was really seeing someone, but that I was seeing someone really seeing me. Once I embraced the terror of this realization and gave it time to subside, I arrived somewhere unexpected.” • #дейтинг ∙ via @weekend - urbansheep@gmail.com

http://www.nytimes.com/2015... — No. 37: Big Wedding or Small? The 36 Questions That Lead to Love - urbansheep@gmail.com

Мы попробовали эти вопросы сегодня на обеде с коллегами - столько нового друг о друге узнали. Правда, за час только до 16 вопроса дошли. - teinett

“As modern ladies of marrying age, our trusty inadequacy paradigm has always gone something like this: "I'm too fat for the men I like." "I'm too ugly to get married." "I'm too old to find a guy." Blah blah blah, fart, repeat, dead (the lifecycle of the human woman). And lately, this other sort of protest-too-much inversion seems fashionable: "I'm too smart/too pretty/too successful/too interesting/too funny/too outspoken to bag a man!" No matter what or who we (hetero) women are, we are always too something for men. Isn't that just fucked? Because to be "too" something implies that there's a something else out there to aim for. But there isn't. IT'S A TRAP.” • #дейтинг • #женщины_и_люди - × × ×

"But if you really are eager, to say nothing of desperate, for a long-term partner you may have to contend with something else—the tyranny of unwitting compromise. Often the people who go on the sites that promise you a match are so primed to find one that they jump at the first or the second or the third who comes along. The people who are looking may not be the people you are looking for. “It’s a selection problem when you round up a bunch of people who want to settle down,” Chris Coyne, one of the founders of a site called OK Cupid, told me. Some people are too picky, and others aren’t picky enough. Some hitters swing at every first pitch, and others always strike out looking. Many sites, either because of their methods or because of their reputations, tend to attract one or the other." • #дейтинг - × × ×

(*12кб текста дисклеймера о том, что типирование не работает никогда, кроме тех редких случаев, когда таки да.) #соционический_балаган - #дейтинг - × × ×

Роял-флаш почти никогда не выпадает, кроме тех случаев, когда он выпадает. - псы в рапиде

Ох, и ехидный ж ты, сквадетт. - × × ×

“First dates are awkward. There is so much you want to know about the person across the table from you, and yet so little you can directly ask. ¶ This post is our attempt to end the mystery. We took OkCupid's database of 275 294 match questions—probably the biggest collection of relationship concerns on earth—and the 776 million answers people have given us, and we asked: What questions are easy to bring up, yet correlate to the deeper, unspeakable, issues people actually care about? ¶ Love, sex, a soulmate, an argument, whatever you're looking for, we'll show you the polite questions to find it. We hope they'll be useful to you in the real world.” #говоря_статистически • #дейтинг - × × ×

«Q: In a certain light, wouldn't nuclear war be exciting? implied odds of first-date sex: 'yes'⇒83%» - 9000

«If your date is okay with bad grammar and spelling, the odds of him or her being at least moderately religious is slightly better than 2:1» - 9000

“The more men who say you're hot, the more messages you get. Men who think you're cute actually subtract from your message count. This tells us that guys giving you a '4', who are actually rating you above average-looking, are taking away from the messages you get. Very surprising. In fact, when you combine this with the positive number in front of the m1 term, our formula says that, statistically speaking: If someone doesn't think you're hot, the next best thing for them to think is that you're ugly.” #говоря_статистически • #дейтинг - × × ×

“Browsing OkCupid, I see so many photos that are clearly designed to minimize some supposedly unattractive trait—the close-cropped picture of a person who's probably overweight is the classic example. We now have mathematical evidence that minimizing your "flaws" is the opposite of what you should do. If you're a little chubby, play it up. If you have a big nose, play it up. If you have a weird snaggletooth, play it up: statistically, the guys who don't like it can only help you, and the ones who do like it will be all the more excited.” - × × ×

“The Zodiac and Other Beliefs: Since he’s a Pisces and I’m a Virgo, Chris and I of course think the Zodiac is total bullshit, and it was very gratifying to have the data bear this out. Here are the grouped match percentages for a random pool of 500,000 users. Astrological sign has no effect whatsoever on how compatible two people are. We’re showing you this table, as dull as it is, because the uniformity neatly illustrates how beefy our data set is. There are 144 pools considered above, and they all match the mean plus or minus 0.5%.” #говоря_статистически • #дейтинг - × × ×

Безжалостные, безжалостные!!!11 - × × ×